How to check your partner's infidelity
About loyalty and ... Treason
We happened to each of us, at least once in life, to feel attracted to a person, like a whirlpool. A vortex that takes your mind and go deep. Some very powerful, managed to escape from the deep darkness. Others fail. Or do not. Simply they find that love is a gift of life. When we are alone, they incorporate natural things. When we married, they lead to adultery, an unacceptable fact that morality and religion places it among the serious sins. However, the sinners are much more than the virtuous, even if the price is paid in grief and remorse.
"Infidelity is their own men than women"
- the ideal image of love involves, necessarily, faithfulness, righteousness sentimental to me. Why is it so important that two people in love and be faithful to each other?
- Two men are faithful to their lovers as there is love between them. If there is no loyalty, then there is no love. It is important that the two do not lose their sense of belonging to one another. If you say: "I love it" should prove to be true. Love needs signs. Only they generate trust, safety, balance, ingredients without which love can not exist. Behavior of a man in love should confirm statements, love is built of concrete words and gestures. And it is made just for me. You can be happy leaving you deceiving or cheating. - However, in everyday life, fidelity remains rather an empty promise.According to international statistics of psychologists and sociologists, 76% of those surveyed had at least one extramarital affair. What to make of this? As people registered infidelity gene? I have to accept it as a natural fact? That physical attraction lasts only 4-5 years, as sexologists say? - Infidelity is to own men than women. Priests themselves or accept it, I remember that when I asked a parent, he told me that during a post (which you and the sexually) woman would be good to give, if he sees that the man is "disturbed" very hard for this loyalty. I mean, the woman, see me for my loyalty and my post, otherwise it disturbed him, and if he falls into error, it is my fault. This means that even the Church approve a certain extent and in extremis, from the feminine male infidelity. Unfortunately, it happens: a woman comes out dirty, whereas a man - no. Related statistics that I pomeneati, they are sometimes much nonsense, because they are on a sample, no matter how large, not infinite beat ... Only God says that's true, but it says at the end of life, do not tell the beginning or along the way, when people are allowed to oscillate. It's their right to swing ... In connection with what sexologists, that physical attraction lasts only 4-5 years, I do not believe what they say, this is a very random look over such situations, because in a match very good of the couple, both are fluent, while in a relationship squeaky - one of the two is tempted to give up and from there follows the other, as if in a cascade. But infidelity is unlikely to come from a gene. - When is the desire betrayal "Couple? There are specific reasons that make it one of the partners to seek fulfillment" sex elsewhere?
When that partner feels like something's wrong, that no longer make any relationship satisfaction that, whether it's in front of Jaguar or simply does not feel the joy of waking up the next day her boyfriend ... she complains after illusions taken while he, poor man, is not to blame, he did everything he could to save appearances, only to finish something, and two others - the illusion of love. True love to be in a couple, there must have been three generations of parents to be loved clean and beautiful, to be held by hand in front of them, to be defended one another, to be talking with tuna warm to each other and be pound wounds ... and then, to her and let free the two young men, to try all these statements alone the mother and father tell of love. Like any ideal, love needs strong patterns. - Participation in sin is different in women than men? - It is usually grounded in a very wrong, leaving just always made from this difference, between men and women in which is favored man and woman has to obey ... It's kind of patriarchy that women have never accepted, because that you a man, not a social structure. Matriarchy and patriarchy are still some social structures, or human feelings are the same, and the men, and the female. And then, it seems natural for a woman to live some feelings which men live, but society is not allow because an education for hundreds of years, that does not allow women to go wrong, because dirty image of man, while he is allowed because she is forced to endure it.
"Sexuality is more temptation than love"
What should we do when we feel that slip? "There are good psychological remedies to follow When you feel like drifting, it's good to take our spouse or partner's hand, to separate our mother, father, mother, grandmother or anyone who might have influence on the couple. These two young people to look eye to eye, to look back to the time they spent together, to remember the first day and saw the joy and happiness of each other in the eye, and to determine whether this you dispute a something into them or something that they were induced from outside by those who lead them as parents.
- There is a small adventure opinion that refreshes a sentimental relationship numb, like a save from failure.
That's very true, especially from men (and sometimes from women, true), with the amendment as one and else they can get ears "in real life, unwittingly and unthinking. then, there was no way to get back the love that strong to begin with., in that case, love is confused with temptation. Sexuality is a matter you more temptation than love, or rather not love you anymore. yourself, but a terrible temptation, and no human structures tilted towards sexuality, and other more lucid - so are they, and all life, the couple that will live in a context where sex is gentle, calm, landlocked spectacular, but true and consistent, without expecting, but the sexual relationship with flutes angels descend from heaven ... - It's good to recognize betrayal or go with them to the grave? - This is about context.'m certain situations, in how much experience I have, where to go with them to the grave, and that was not good because marriage went all the way and they had many return when they were happy together ... But there are situations where one of them (or both) were so stubborn that were bitter about this and they said: "How you have allowed me do me one like that? ". This is because many people consider the center of the universe and never think human error is that human curiosity is that forgiveness must occur 70 times by 7, for anything. But more than anything, there is confessor. Ideally, each person has a confessor, to be older and experienced, and who knows always cold and real love , to tell the young man in front of him which I ask for help, which is ideal.'s why people need to be under obedience, not in the sense of: "Yes, sir", but under the obedience freely consented, as that to God, the word that you say spiritual disciple not to question him, but consider him good came directly from God. And so it is! "There are women who have had schizophrenia after a betrayal" - Why does it hurt so much betrayal? infidelity often leads to illness, suicide, destabilizes our lifetime. You can expect a psychological help in this case? - It depends. I've had situations where I could help a lot and others that I could not help at all.'s about some psychological structures sensitive and hypersensitive ultra. schizophrenia are women who have made after a betrayal, because they could not get over it. Women as a sensitivity no wind could not blow, without them suffer if these doubts were from their husband or partner. extremely resistant and other individuals who marries three times with the same woman. I, if you ask me, I told the man I would not replace with anyone and anything, stay with him for 30 years, and no matter how many problems we had (because I've had problems like everyone, with two children, with services with shortcomings related to health), if you were to marry again, all I would marry him ... I honestly confess that perfection is not embodied, but I'm not ... - In case infidelity is proved, we can heal her pain? She has chances to become again what love was: the great ideal of life? - has, of course it is, provided that one of the two to love as I see love, that is to -true love., and then, is likely, as one who loves the most forgiving most. actual forgive one who loves real and clear your head, not your mind, forget what it was and did not think that there is virtually no reason for separation. But this is an attitude that there are very rare. - In your practice daily will frequently deal with victims of infidelity? - Yes, of course, almost every day - is one of The most common topics and test one of the cornerstones of each couple. And they, too, relies entirely on the issue of fidelity, require definite, but without trying to see what it is, what they did not ask for it reached a unfortunate situation. Typically, partners are considered victims and give your partner accuse stones and hard as I can, believing that only they are guilty. Actually, he will be gone well at home, and it have happened to something, not anymore. Both should look eye to eye, cry if you love and even sorry. But if it's a physical rejection, then you know for sure that I have wrong.http://posts.fanbox.com/l6c75
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